So often we try to make other people feel better by minimizing their pain, by telling them that it will get better (which it will) or that there are worse things in the world (which there are). But that’s not what I actually needed. What I actually needed was for someone to tell me that it hurt because it mattered.
I have found this very useful to think about over the years, and I find that it is a lot easier and more bearable to be sad when you aren’t constantly berating yourself for being sad.
Just like how it takes a long time for trust to be built. I’ve to admit I’ve not been very patient. And it’s true that at some point of your life, it’s ok to leave some people out. I can be nice to you. Similarly I can be cold and say unkind words to you. It’s scary I guess because I seldom do so. Just feel that some things really just doesn’t matter anymore. At the end of the day, everyone is just fake. Nothing is real anyway.